Want to be my mommy friend?

“Hi my name is Christie, this is my son Keo, do you want to be our friend?”

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One thing people don’t tell you when you become a mom is how lonely it can be! I have non-mom friends who mean well, but they just don’t understand what it is like being a mom! There is just something about experiencing motherhood that non-mom friends won’t understand or relate with until they are moms. So until then.. the search for mom friends begins!

Real mom friends are hard to find because every mom wants to pretend like they have it all together. Guilty!

We post that one picture in one hundred where we actually put makeup on, wore something other than yoga pants, and a shirt without food stains or boogers on it. Yes, boogers.

We currently moved to a new city, so I am trying to find friends for myself and for my son… it’s hard!

Finding mom friends is worse than dating!

I have gone to playgroups, playgrounds, and storytimes where the moms sit around, barely speak, and focus on their babies. I think we are all feeling the same thing, but we are just too shy to say “Hi, I am lonely. Want to be my mom friend?”

Going to one of these places feels kind of like speed dating. Truthfully,  I have never gone speed dating but I can imagine that you walk into the room not knowing anyone, look around, find the best potentinal, and hope you have enough in common to make it work out. But here is the catch. You aren’t only interviewing for yourself…you’re baby has to pass the test! It doesn’t matter if you and the mom hit it off. If they have a small 4 month old, and you have the walking toddler, the chances of that relationship working is slim to none.

As you can see, it is very hard to find mom friends!

So to every mom out there just looking for their mommy friend soulmate, remember…

you are not alone! The mom beside you might just be as desperate as you are to have an adult conversation.

So the next time you are at story time or on the playground, just say hi to the mom beside you and go for it! What’s the worse that could happen?

Making Mom Friends

6 COMMENTS

  1. Natalie | 29th Jun 17

    love this post! it is so true, I used to sit there hoping our eyes would meet or our kids start fighting over a toy. Just to start up a conversation. I went many months without mom friends and finally realized I just have to go out and possibly embarrass myself and say hi. Best tip is to compliment their child. Pick a mom that has a child close in age to yours and go from there 🙂 Can’t wait to read more of your posts.

  2. Janaisy | 27th Jul 17

    Loved your post!! Very true 🙂

  3. Ellen | 12th Oct 17

    Absolutely! My daughter was born nearly 26 years ago and I’m still very good friends with our playgroup moms. We met in Lamaze class. All 4 of us were new moms and at-home moms. I’m so thankful for our group! We helped each other with parenting issues and just meshed as friends. The girls (we all had baby girls) long stooped joining our get-together, but the moms still have a weekend get-together twice a year.

  4. Ashley | 12th Oct 17

    I think I often make the mistake of assuming that people are busy and not interested in talking to me. Thank you for this reminder that many people might be wishing for a bit of human interaction.

  5. courtney | 12th Oct 17

    i do not have children myself, but i do have friends who are moms and this post honestly made me see life through their eyes a little bit. i should really reach out to them more and try to remember that their life may be entirely different than mine, but i should still always be there for them and try to make more of an effort to be a part of their lives. great post!

  6. Melissa | 12th Oct 17

    If this isn’t the truth i don’t know what is! I feel the same way, all my friends had their kids and now its like i don’t have no one to hang with for my son and I! It does get lonely, and same as you moved to another city so i can relate! Hopefully it changes for us!

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