There has been a lot of controversy in the blogger/ social media influencer world about people not being real enough.
Photoshopped pictures, perfectly clean houses, and the always “happy” family is causing followers to re-evaluate who they are giving so much attention to.
However, when bloggers and influencers try to be REAL, they get criticized. Their house is too messy, they have uneven eyebrows, and let’s not even mention the messy hair. As a result, bloggers and influencers have resorted to extreme photoshopping in order to portray the “perfect” image on Instagram and other social media platforms.
The truth is: both groups are equally in the wrong.
I believe the idea of “perfection” has gone too far and we need to bring back the honesty of who we are.
It is one thing to pick the picture of the most flattering angle, but now we are editing ourselves to perfection. We are showing others our highlight reel and they are comparing themselves and their lives to our best and most edited photos. For example:
On the left is me without any editing. The right is an “Instagram worthy” photo where I have edited myself to “perfection”. ((I was actually taught how to edit photos on Instagram to achieve more likes.)) This photo was edited in about 5-10 minutes using three different apps. I smoothed out my nose, filled in my eyebrows, got rid of the dark circles under my eyes, smoothed the wrinkles around my eye, gave my skin a more even tone, made my lashes fuller, AND topped it all of with a filter. RIDICULOUS!
More ridiculous is the fact that people want to see the girl on the right. They want to see perfection whether or not they would like to admit it. We don’t care for average because perfect is what our eyes are drawn to. Which is why bloggers are getting criticized when they try to show who they really are. Take a look at the bigger accounts and see the critique they receive no matter what they do.
The reality is: perfection isn’t REAL.
The girl on the right in the picture above is not me.
I am the girl with the uneven skin tone and overly thin eyebrows (thanks early 2000’s when thin eyebrows were in).
This is what I look like unedited on most days. Frizzy hair and fly-aways. Eyebrows that I am trying to grow in. Uneven skin tone and white patches due to eczema among many other things.
The photoshopping has to stop! People need to stop seeking perfection and look for REALITY. There is SO much BEAUTY in who we really are and not who we are trying to be.
So moving forward, my promise to you is to stop giving you perfection and start being REAL.
But please don’t misunderstand this statement.
At the same time, I can appreciate the beauty in art and creativity in photography and blogging. Sometimes changing the brightness or adding a filter makes the image stand out more. For example:
Brightening up the first picture and adding a cool toned filter to the second picture elevated the overall quality of each photo.
Please understand that Blogging is a full-time job that some get paid for. Some companies that work with bloggers have a certain look they want their product to look like. Adding a filter, such as the black and white one, isn’t the problem. The issue comes when we over alter images to appear completely different than the originals.
I am no longer going to contribute to the idea that in order to be a successful social media influencer or blogger, you have to look and be perfect.
I want my blog, Simply My Bella Vida, and the images on my blog to be professional and visually appealing. However, I am no longer seeking perfection and I am going to stop portraying the perfect life. I want to be REAL.
Bloggers and social media influencers are quitting what they love most a because they can no longer keep up with the perfect image they are trying so hardly to display. Or they get discouraged when no one follows, comments, or likes their pictures because it’s “average”.
Disclaimer: If you are the blogger or social media influencer that edits and seeks the perfect images that is your prerogative (do you boo boo!) Just as I am going to do me.
My goal is to learn to love myself in every imperfect way, and I want to help you do the same.
If you are looking for that “Instagram Worthy” body, face, home, and family, then this will no longer be the account for you. In order to see change, we have to be the change. And if this move makes me lose followers or business deals then so be it. I don’t want to profit from something that is hurting others and ruining the truth about beauty.
Beauty isn’t found in perfection. Beauty is found in HONESTY.
As always, thanks for reading!