First off, let me tell the truth: Being a stay-at-home mom IS NOT EASY.
There will be good days and there will be hard days.
Society wants you to believe that it is the easiest job in the world (if some even consider it a job)
But the reality is you don’t get any breaks, paid time-off, vacation or sick days. The job is not done until the night when you can go to bed and rest, but even then, you are on call 24/7.
The physical aspect can be tough (i.e. puling an nighter with your sick child) but it is doable!
The mental part is what breaks you.
There will hard moments of unsocialized days, staying isolated at home, and the same day-to-day routine that has the capability of leaving you sad and lonely.
There will be days where you will feel unhappy with your roll as a stay-at-home mom and you will feel extremely guilty about it because you know many women who would love to stay home with their kids but they can’t.
I am here to tell you that these feeling are completely normal!
Somedays will rock and somedays you will be completely tired of the day-to-day routine at home and lonliness. Some days you will feel like you’re on top of the world, and other days you will feel like your life is only good for cooking, cleaning, washing clothes, and keeping your children well-fed and happy.
When this happens it is important to get yourself out of the house and shake up your routine a little bit.
Constantly putting someone else’s needs before your own can really drain your energy and mental health FAST!
Whether you decided to be a stay-at-home mom or whether the decision was made for you due to circumstances in life, don’t ever feel bad about not enjoying some of the days “on the the job”.
I don’t think enough moms talk about this out of guilt or shame. They only want to share the happy moments. But the reality is stay-at-home moms suffer more from emotional challenges and depression than those who work outside of the home.
I am a true believer that some moms are made to be stay-at-home moms and others are made to be working moms and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that! There are mixed messages out there that say you’re a bad mom if you work, or you’re a lazy mom if you “only stay home.”
Some moms struggle for more than just one day feeling these feelings of depression and loneliness. If this is you, I encourage you to do whatever you need to do to find happiness. If you are miserable all of the time staying at home with your kids, then you aren’t giving your children the best you that they need and deserve. Trying joining playgroups, schedule play dates, consider getting a part-time job or even enrolling your kids into preschool twice a week if you need to. Do whatever it is you need to do in order to be happy and don’t feel bad or guilty if staying at home all day with your children just isn’t for you.
***Disclaimer: this post was written based off of the experiences of a stay-at-home mom. It isn’t a battle between working moms and SAHM’s of who has it harder because I am sure both are equally as tough because motherhood is not easy***
Also, I want to make it very clear that I fell extremely blessed to be a stay-at-home mom. It has always been my dream to stay home with my children for as long as I can. However, that does not mean it is easy.