Finding JOY in Motherhood- Postpartum

Hey Mama!

Finding JOY in motherhood during postpartum doesn’t always come easy.

 yes, you are happy your baby is finally in your arms  but

there are a lot of emotions that come with the postpartum journey.

I spent months physically preparing for my son to arrive: washing his clothes, assembling the nursery furniture, cleaning, etc.

But one thing that I never considered was mental preparation.

Whether you have a c-section or you deliver naturally, your body has to recover from literally building another life inside of you.

Not every woman’s body bounces back in two weeks like social media wants to make you believe.

Your hormones are trying to rebalance themselves and you are adjusting to new schedule along with sleep-deprivation.

Let’s be honest.

You are exhausted!

Getting into a new routine of late-night feedings and diaper changes doesn’t always produce joy.

Sometimes finding joy in motherhood during postpartum seems impossible & even leads to Postpartum Depression.

Here a few tips on how to battle the lows during postpartum and find the joy in it!


Get REST

The main reason I was overly emotional and anything but joyful during postpartum was because I was exhausted!

I didn’t have a trouble sleeping while I was pregnant,

and I went from sleeping 9-10 hours a day to barely sleeping at all.

I felt like taking a nap made me a bad mom

but the truth is, not resting made me a a bad mom because I wasn’t enjoying my son

because I was too tired.

Get Help

It’s ok to ask for help from others!

Don’t feel like you have to do all the cooking, cleaning, and daily chores in order to be a good mom.

Your main focus during postpartum needs to be taking care of that new baby and bonding with him/her.

Releasing the pressure of maintaining a perfect house during this season

will help you to find joy during postpartum.

It doesn’t last forever 

The long nights, cluster feedings, and feeling like a zombie doesn’t last forever.

Eventually things normalize.

Or at least you get used to your new definition of what normal looks like.

Try to enjoy every single moment.

Don’t worry about your body- you can work out later.

Don’t worry about your hair- you’ll wash it again some day ; )

Focus on the new life you created.

Instead of stressing, just laugh about the good, the bad, and the ugly.

No matter what you have to clean up that blowout and change your shirt full of spit-up.

Instead of stressing about it, find JOY in every moment during postpartum!

As Always,

Christie

post partum depression

 

 

16 COMMENTS

  1. Virjinia Harp | 22nd Sep 17

    I love this! Social media always paints this picture of everyone so happy and “together” after having kids but I know it’s anything but!

    • Simply My Bella Vida | 25th Sep 17

      yes!! I was a hot mess in yoga pants I was lucky to get a shower. That was only my physical appearance so imagine what was going on inside.

  2. Riley Barker | 22nd Sep 17

    I have struggled with PP. And Your right it doesn’t last forever! so proud you could share your struggles!

    • Simply My Bella Vida | 25th Sep 17

      It seems like it because the nights are long but the years are short, right??

  3. Katherine Petrunia | 22nd Sep 17

    Love this. I had such a range of emotions after the birth of my first daughter and my anxiety went through the roof. It was such an interesting experience and I appreciate that this topic is getting addressed more often.

    • Simply My Bella Vida | 25th Sep 17

      Same here! I wonder if it is a first child thing because we don’t really know what to expect, but I have a feeling that things will be better the next time around!

  4. Kristin | 23rd Sep 17

    Beautiful post! I remember how difficult it was to get used to having one baby and then two babies. I still work on giving myself a break when it comes to self-care and guilt. Thanks for these words for all Mommas!

    • Simply My Bella Vida | 25th Sep 17

      I struggle with one and I can’t imagine how it would be with two or more. So self-care is a MUST! Thanks for the support!

  5. Aryn Hinton | 23rd Sep 17

    This is a great post! The post partum period is so different than the media portrays it!

    • Simply My Bella Vida | 25th Sep 17

      I agree! I think that was one of the big reasons I was so thrown off as a first time mom. I thought it was all going to be dreamy and bright. Yeah, there were special and sweet moments, but there were also moments where there was uncontrollable crying on my part!

  6. Melissa | 23rd Sep 17

    Great points! No one tells moms that they also need to focus on themselves when they become a mom!

  7. Nicole Raithel | 24th Sep 17

    Such a great post. Great read, especially
    as I am about to enter the newborn phase next week!

  8. Herlina Kwee | 27th Sep 17

    Great article. It’s amazing what a woman goes through from pregnancy, child birth and beyond. Physically and mentally. Moms are the best. 🙂

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