Finding JOY in Motherhood- During the first SIX months

Hey Mama!

It can be very easy to find joy in motherhood when babies are in the first six months of their life because things are more simple then.

However, there are also moments where finding joy can be very hard !

My son’s first 4 months of his life were actually the hardest months I have experienced so far.

I am not sure what your experience has been, but I am going to write this based on my experiences and I hope it helps!

You have made it past the newborn stage and hopefully you have or are in the process of establishing some kind of routine…

Just in time for that sweet routine to be completely thrown off!

(If you are a first time mom of a smaller baby and I just spoiled this for you-sorry!)

One of my greatest frustrations during this time was not having any kind routine or order no matter how hard I tried.

I even got the privilege of having a 30 minute napper

which meant if I ever managed to even get my son to sleep anywhere other than my arms,

I barely had time to do anything before he woke up. 

Then there are  the sleep regressions and developmental leaps.

Teething.

Sleep training.

Introducing solids and the affects of introducing those solids

and so much more!

Whenever you establish a good routine, one of the things listed above reminds you that there is no such thing.

Learning this was a hard lesson, but it helped me grow in many aspects!

If you are not a go-with-the-flow kind of person, motherhood will teach you to be

because motherhood is all about changed schedules and new routines.

I used to stress out whenever something like teething interrupted my perfect sleep schedule,

and I would try to get back to “normal” as fast as possible.

I was frustrated and defeated.

I found joy in motherhood during these moments when I gave up trying to have a perfect routine.

Don’t get me wrong…

Babies do need structure and need your best efforts to put them on a routine, but life happens and at one point or another they will fall off of that routine and you need to just roll with the punches.

If you can learn to do this, you will find more joy in motherhood during the first six months of your babies life.

As Always,

Christie

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31 COMMENTS

  1. Robin rue | 25th Sep 17

    It’s tough, but I really did enjoy those first few months 😄 Of course it helped that my kids each slept through the night at 12 weeks.

    • Simply My Bella Vida | 25th Sep 17

      That is like another world for me! haha! My son is still not truly sleeping through the night and he is 15 months old!

  2. Jessica Joachim | 25th Sep 17

    Those first few months can be so draining. It can be hard to find the joy sometimes. I personally had to just let go of my expectations. Stop worrying about cleaning perfectly and just remember to love in the moment. Now that they are older, I kind of miss that age.

  3. Jeanine | 25th Sep 17

    I love the newborn stage because they grow up so fast in the first 6-7 months but it can be exhausting with the feeding and sleep schedules.

  4. Cassie | 25th Sep 17

    I’m not a mother yet but I can appreciate how many different emotions one would go through especially in the first 6 months. It can be easy in any stage or season of life to get caught up in sweating the small stuff but it’s important to take the time to find joy

  5. Erica | 25th Sep 17

    I think a lot of women have a fantasy in mind when they think of being first-time moms. And it can be an adjustment to deal with a new life. But whatever it is, it is good to remember that this stage is temporary. And that you’ll probably actually miss it some day.

  6. Joanna @ Everyday Made Fresh | 25th Sep 17

    I love every second of the first six months. Then again I know that I was blessed with both of my girls. They were excellent sleepers, excellent eaters, and were just really chill 99% of the time.

  7. Ana De- Jesus | 26th Sep 17

    I am so pleased that you found joy in motherhood and that it taught you to be more spontaneous and give up the perfect routine. Go you x

  8. Beth Davidson | 26th Sep 17

    I don’t have a problem finding joy (I have a 2 month old), but I sure do have a hard time finding sleep! Babies are party animals.

  9. Karen Morse | 26th Sep 17

    It’s really important that you do enjoy every single moment because you won’t be able to get it back. They also grow up so fast it’s tough to miss any! But there will always be struggles and challenges, you shouldn’t take them seriously and just try to go with the flow. That will take the pressure and the stress off.

  10. Roxanne | 26th Sep 17

    You’re right everything changes! Just when you get used to something it changes again! That’s the unpredictable part of parenting that none of us can prepare for. 🙂

  11. Sarah | 26th Sep 17

    Getting a routine with a baby is definitely difficult, I think it is important to just do your best each day and to remember to take time to enjoy the baby while they’re little, it goes by so fast!

  12. Nicole | 26th Sep 17

    It sounds like you’re an awesome mom. One of my best friend’s has all of her kids on a routine with in a few weeks. She said it’s hard, but it makes her a better mom and that makes happier kids.

  13. Kelsa | 26th Sep 17

    I’m not a first time Mom, but needed this reminder today to go with the flow! With my toddler I didn’t enjoy “every moment” of this stage, especially days like this where she was going through one of the challenges you listed. But there’s a difference between “enjoying” and “finding joy” you’ve got it right about finding joy! When you do that you enjoy them overall, not necessarily every moment. I’m glad some moms can enjoy every moment, but for the rest of us we can look for the joy amids the struggles. I think the struggles make the joy that much sweeter!

  14. Amanda | 26th Sep 17

    I have a two-year-old, and I am expecting my second in November. I am a little nervous about the newborn stage, as I haven’t had to worry about that for two years! It was pretty easy with my first, so I’m anxious to see what life with two will be like

  15. Terri Steffes | 26th Sep 17

    I love this post! All this is true, and I hope it inspires another mom. Just remember the journey is different for everyone, but all these tips help us to figure out what works!

  16. Tayler Morrell | 26th Sep 17

    I feel you! I had two 30-minute nappers! When I had my first, I wanted to be the on-top-of-it parent-with-a-schedule. And that lasted all of about two months before I realized it wasn’t working and learned to loosen up. Yes, we still had routine, but we didn’t follow the clock, and it was more enjoyable. I kept that with my second. I molded her routine around our already set routine and she’s been a champ!

  17. Rachel | 26th Sep 17

    I felt like i could never count or plan on anything because they change so quickly and the routines never quite stayed the same.

  18. Cindy Ingalls | 27th Sep 17

    It all depends on your baby. Some babies are laid-back and adopt to a schedule fairly easily. Others want their own way or have tummy troubles that keep them from being an easy sleeper. No matter what, you can find the joy in the smiles and changes your baby goes through each day.

  19. Krystel | Disney on a Budget | 27th Sep 17

    We should all applaud moms, they work so hard. Sounds like a tough yet rewarding time.

  20. reesa | 27th Sep 17

    Those first few months are the hardest, but around 6 months was oh so my favorite! Cherish those moments!

  21. Brittany | 27th Sep 17

    I love what you said about giving up on a specific routine. Every day holds its own adventures, and many of them are unpredictable. When we are able to give up on a specific routine and roll with the punches, we can find such joy!

  22. Carolyn | 27th Sep 17

    The sleep deprivation is so difficult. Once your baby sleeps a good 7-8 hours things change for the better. I feel like the best gift to moms is a good nights sleep.

  23. Heather | 27th Sep 17

    This is such a hard time but you do need to make an effort to soak up every wonderful moment because it goes by so fast!

  24. Jean | 27th Sep 17

    I’m currently trying for a baby, and am so desperate to conceive. I know how difficult motherhood can be, but would feel truly blessed if I got to experience it. It’s truly a joyful thing.

  25. Amber Nelson | 28th Sep 17

    Oh how the kiddos grow, especially during that time frame! There is a lot of joy!

  26. Aseky Bonnaire | 28th Sep 17

    Such a good read! It really is hard finding joy in motherhood, especially in the first 6 months. 1 of my boys, was very colicky up until he was 4 months so it was hard to to find that joy. But I really enjoyed reading this! If I ever have baby number 4, I will refer back to this ❤️❤️

  27. Angela Ricardo Bethea | 28th Sep 17

    I hope that I do well in my first few months when my little one is born. It’s kinda nervewracking and by the way love your post.

  28. Cassie Tucker | 28th Sep 17

    My cousins who recently had children struggled similarly as you. They found motherhood much more enjoyable when they gave up the idea of a perfect routine.

  29. The Salty Mamas | 29th Sep 17

    That first year is such an adjustment, but I appreciate your honesty. And I agree- you have to try to find the joy whenever you can!

  30. Angie | 30th Sep 17

    I had a routine set up for my baby by the time I went back to work. Just for it to get ruined by teething. I had to retrain her again once she got through that phase.

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