When you are a parent it is very important to have date night.
This article gives a few tips on how to turn those dates into a success!
Sometimes we get so wrapped up in our kids that we forget about our spouse, and most of the time there is no other way.
Obviously our children need us to care for their everyday needs, but your spouse needs you too!
That is why it is important to set some time aside to be together.
I put together 4 Date Night Tips to help you get back to dating your spouse.
#1- Don’t talk about the kids
This one might be hard, especially for stay-at-home mama’s who spend their entire day at home with the kiddos.
Being a SAHM is your life and your full-time job. It’s your morning and night. Your weekdays and weekends.
So, you might feel like you don’t have anything “non-kid” to discuss because your day consists of diaper changes, soothing, tantrums, meal preparations and more!
It might feel comfortable to talk about the kids when you are out with your husband because that is your common ground.
It’s what you equally know, love, and understand. I am right there with you!
When my husband starts talking about his job, it takes everything I have in me to not get distracted because it’s another world for me.
Side note: I am not saying to never talk about the kids because it is VERY important for you and your spouse to get together touch base about what’s going on with the children.
I am just saying try to avoid kid-talk during a date. That’s possible for an hour or two isn’t it?
#2- Get Dressed up
It doesn’t matter how long you have been married for, it is very important to get dressed up for one another, especially when you go out on dates.
More often than not, yoga pants, baby food stained shirts, and over dry-shampooed hair is what you will see me in.
Sometimes, it’s hard to get dressed up or wear something nice when the biggest outing of my day is running to the grocery store.
It’s even harder when I know that my clothes are inevitably going to get drool stains or messed up from normal life of taking care of a toddler.
BUT studies do show that getting ready every day and doing certain tasks, such as making your bed, helps to improve your mood, self-esteem, and so much more!
I know, easier said than done, especially the younger your kids are.
After a few years of marriage, your husband has most likely seen every side of you; the good, the bad, and the ugly.
By now, he has already proven he loves you under every light and in every situation.
It is easy to stop trying.
But i encourage you to dress up for each other in the same way you would have when you were dating.
Really try to make an effort and show him that the girl he dated is still there.
Now, I am not saying you need to put on buckets of makeup or wear something fancy.
Dress up in a whatever way that will make you feel better, stronger, and more confident!
To guys, the most beautiful kind of woman is one who wears a smile and radiates confidence.
So do whatever it is that makes you feel good. Don’t let those insecurities ruin the special time you have with your husband.
#3- Schedule time for a date
It might not sound romantic needing to schedule alone time with your husband,
but when you are busy parents that is exactly what you need to do!
Before we had our son, my husband and I did everything together.
We spent our Saturdays sleeping in, full of lots of cuddling, talking, and coffee.. back when we thought we “needed” it. HA!
We played games, cooked together, and went on tons of spontaneous outings.
Can you tell how much I valued those moments & miss them?
Don’t get me wrong, becoming parents is truly the greatest thing in the world, and I honestly couldn’t imagine life without our son.
I just miss my husband because now all of our free time is spent taking care of our son.
When we finally get two seconds alone together, we are sleep-deprived and too wiped out from the day to do anything other than Netflix and chill.
For this reason, it is important to set some time aside each week, every other week, or at least once a month for alone time together.
This will help to rekindle the spark and to remind each of you about your first and most important role of being a husband and wife.
It is very important for your marriage to be strong and to have a solid foundation.
One way to achieve that is by continuously dating your spouse.
#4- Dates don’t have to be out or expensive
Sometimes funds are lower than we would like and there isn’t always money to go out.
Even if you have the money, spending it for a date night is not necessary.
Some of my favorite dates with my husband are the ones under $5 or the free ones!
I would rather spend quality time talking with my husband walking around a park over eating in a not so private restaurant.
We also love active dates, like bicycling, rock-climbing, or hiking.
Sometimes when you can’t find a babysitter, having a date at home when the kids go to bed is the only option.
Resist the urge to ignore it, chill, or just watch t.v!
No matter how tired you may be, do something special or fun together.
Preferably something that involves communicating.
We like to play card games, or search for trivia questions or riddles online and ask each other.
We always end up laughing hysterically, and we enjoy figuring out the answer together.
Thanks for reading! If you have any other examples or need help coming up with ideas, leave a comment down below 🙂